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Tuesday, September 10, 2013

A New Book by Steve & Melanie McVey

My wife, Melanie, and I have written a book that was released today on Amazon that I believe will help many, many people. Melanie was sexually molested as a child and, as is always the case, the effect on her life was huge. In fact, she came to hate the man who molested her - her grandfather. This book describes the journey she traveled from horrible hurt to hatred to healing.

As Melanie shares her story of abuse, she and I both write about how our lives are affected by the pain we have experienced from others and how to find freedom from past hurts through grace. I believe this may book may touch people's lives at a more profound level than anything I've written since Grace Walk. 

Melanie writes: I was a little girl of about five or six when my abuse began. My grandfather was the one person in my life who gave me love and affection. I was a middle child, so I felt like I didn’t get much attention from anybody, but my grandfather would come over and let me dance on his feet. He’d set me on his big shoes, hold my hands, and walk around the room as I danced. He’d sit me on his lap, and swing me around in his arms. I remember so many times just being held and cuddled by him. That was very important to me. I didn’t get that kind of affection from anybody else.

But then the time came when that stopped being the kind of attention he gave me. Although I felt very safe with him in the beginning, I came to realize that he didn’t necessarily love me because of who I was. He wanted to be around me because of what I was–I was a little child, and he was a child molester.

From that dark place, hurt evolved into resentment and eventually turned into complete hatred for her offender. It was only when she received a call from her mother telling her that her grandfather was dying and her response was, “Good! He’ll finally get what he deserves,” that Melanie saw how crippling her pain had become to her emotional and spiritual wholeness.

Melanie and I have counseled hurting people for over forty years and have seen many experience freedom as Christ led them along the pathway you’ll discover in this book.

In these chapters, you will learn:
* How to recognize the effects of internalizing painful events that have happened to you.
* How to identify the hurts done to you that need to be resolved.
* How to take four biblical steps that will free you from the past.
* How to deal with ongoing emotions about what happened.
* How to relate to the person who hurt you.
* How to handle it when somebody continues to hurt you.

Christ alone sets us free and heals our wounds. "Getting Past The Hurt" is nothing less than a description of the pathway of grace that He walks us through to experience that healing. Many have found the healing they needed, and so can you.

You can get the book at this link:


  1. How can I buy your books?

  2. You can get this book at this link:

    You can see all my books, DVDs, CDs, etc at