It was in the midst of the Iraqi War that a young American soldier made a foolish mistake that almost ended his life. It was a mistake that should never have happened. He should have known better. He had been taught the rules of engagement for battle. In Basic Training, his instructors had drilled him again and again on how to handle such circumstances as the one he was now facing in Iraq. He had even memorized the proper protocol from his manual, and could recite it without so much as a slight hesitation.
But in the heat of battle, all of his training seemed to go out the window. In a moment of carelessness, he acted the wrong way and was injured. It was a serious injury.
“You’re going home, son,” he was told by his superiors . “Your service to your country is appreciated. You risked your life here today and have paid a price. On behalf of your President and a proud country, thank you.”
When the young man returned back to his small home town, a celebration awaited him. The people were proud that their home-town boy had fought on the front line. He was called a hero, a brave soldier, and a true patriot. At his church on the Sunday after his return home, he received special recognition in a service where he was honored by the congregation. The local newspaper reporter was there and wrote an article that appeared in the paper the following day. “Young Hero Honored” the headline read.
A hero – a brave young man. That’s how they all saw him. Nobody disputed it. There was another young man from that same congregation. He had become a Christian in that church after years of addiction to alcohol and drugs. The transformation was amazing. The church nurtured him, loved him. It was in that church that he began to sense an inward stirring to go to seminary and prepare for lifelong service as a pastor.
During the years he had been in seminary, his church supported him financially and with their encouragement. They knew that he was being taught how to live the life of a pastor. He was learning how to offer spiritual guidance to others. They couldn’t have been more proud.
Then one day, a leader in the church received a telephone call from this young man. The news that followed was devastating. He began to pour out his story – of how he had been having marital problems. He told about how his grades had been slipping. He had been working a full forty hours a week at night while attending school full time.
Somehow in the midst of it all, he had allowed himself to slip back into his pre-Christ drinking patterns. Nobody knew about his relapse until a few nights before when he was stopped by the police and arrested for drunk driving. An article on page 2 in the local newspaper the next day read, “Local Seminarian Arrested.”
Within 24 hours, he was expelled from the seminary. Devastated by what had happened, he explained his decision to move back home with his family. “We will be moving in with my wife’s parents for a few weeks while we find a place to live,” he said. “I’ll plan to see you at church on Sunday.” When the church leader hung up the phone, he was stunned.
How do you imagine the events of the following weeks unfolding in this young man’s home church? How do you think he would be received when he came back to the church that week? What words would your church use to describe this young seminarian? Would it be the same words they would use to describe the soldier?
Food For Thought
1. Both the soldier and the seminarian had been trained for handling front line battle situations.
2. They were both fighting for a noble cause.
3. They both knew how they should respond in circumstances where they were at risk.
4. They both failed because they didn’t practice what they had been taught.
5. They both came back home to their church.
Would you receive them both back home in the same way? What would you say to the soldier? To the seminarian? Do you believe that to call the young man who failed to live up to his place as a soldier a hero is inappropriate? Would this be likely to cause other soldiers to conclude that it really doesn’t matter if they live up to their training and position as soldiers? Would it encourage carelessness among the ranks? Would it give them a “license” to become poor soldiers?
There are many who have been on the front lines of spiritual service who were wounded – many of them have been injured due to their own foolishness. How are we to handle those who have deliberately made wrong choices?
The Bible offers a few examples. How did the father of the prodigal receive his son who had intentionally chosen the far country? How did Jesus respond to the woman caught in the very act of adultery? How do you handle those who have made wrong choices?
Are we to be “soft on sin?” Of course not. But we are to be soft on people. Those who have been wounded don’t need our scorn. They need our sympathy. Defeated soldiers have rehearsed their failure in their own minds a thousand times. They need love, not lectures. They need acceptance, not accusations.
Pray and ask the Lord to bring to mind a soldier you know who has been wounded in battle. Then pray for that person. Maybe it would be good to call them or visit them and let them know that you love them. Remember the only way a soldier ever gets hurt is if he was in the battle. Those who never move to the front lines won’t be hurt. Only those who face the enemy up close and personal run that risk.
Some may come home bloody and broken. But remember – they were in the fight. How they are received home may set the course for the rest of their lives.
Somehow I don't think most churches would treat the seminarian like they did the soldier. Most wouldn't treat someone caught in adultery like Jesus did the adulterous woman.
ReplyDeleteA number of years ago, feeling bad and disappointed with myself, I confessed a sin to a leader in my church. He literally screamed at me on the phone. I felt even worse.
Your article gives us much to reflect on . . . We don't like the sin, but we can have compassion on the person.
Mark
Was just discussing this morning with some friends- the one characteristic that is supposed to set the church off from the world- the one thing that is supposed to draw them to us- is our radical, nearly incomprehensible love for each other.
ReplyDeleteNot our good deeds, not our powerful preaching and teaching, not our persuasive evangelism, not our beautiful worship experiences.
But our love for our brothers & sisters is supposed to be so amazing...
As we all probably know, the church tends to shoot its wounded. A newly released book asks the question....wouldn't it be nice to have a place where we could expose all of our problems and strongholds and be loved more for it? See Bo's Cafe...
ReplyDeleteSteve M - who are you? You have no profile :) I'm reading Bo's Cafe now.
ReplyDeleteHey Steve. I'm Steve Marks in Meridian, MS.
ReplyDeleteBrother Steve, thank you for your encouragement. You don't know how far it goes and how real to life your analogies can almost be. I am a former Marine and veteran of both Panama and Desert Storm, but not the recent war in Iraq and Afghanistan. I had a situation involving rules of engadgement in Panama at the Araijon tank farm that is similar to what the Marines are enduring in southern Afghanistan with the civilians and Taliban but I would not say as intense, but with the church, it was my father, who was a Pastor that fell from the ministry and it was shortly after our successful return and warm welcome from Desert Storm that I went to Bible school, during which my father stepped down from the ministry, I fell back into sin and dropped out of bible college. Sometimes I have spent endless days and nights in grief over this failure, never either mentally able or whatever it is to rise above the intimidation of all of this in the church, but today you have reminded me in a very real way, that God is not finished with me yet and this gives me hope to love others as I am loved by God,even if at times when at times I feel so empty of it and so cold hearted reflecting and wondering if what used to be was even real. The very name Gracewalk reminds me that all I am or ever was is a result of the Vine and I mustn't rob my own self of the joy of tapping back into the vine because of past hurts and failures and horrors.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Brian
Wow! (It seems that I keep saying "Wow!" when reading your posts and watch your youtube videos.) At any rate, this is extremely thought provoking, eye opening and especially freeing! Sheds even more light on the Father in the story of the prodigal son and also on Jesus when He did not condemn the woman caught in adultery.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you Brian, the enemy's lies are only a paper prison. Father's mind is full of us. May you find the fulness of your joy in Father's loving embrace.
ReplyDeleteThank you John, so much.
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One of my song favs is by Twila Paris called, "The Warrior Is A Child" off her "Kingdom Seekers" LP. She emotes and well the paradox that we have an inner child yearning for Heaven while experiencing battle weary scarring in our Christian grace walk. This analogy in the song title of the late seventies is written about by Paul in his late epistles and Jesus in the Gospels. Paul calls us soldiers in our Christian lives and Jesus said except you become as little children in their accepting of one another and great trusting character in their very nature you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. It's a touching melody that pulls at you. Excellent treatment of Wounding and woundedness in our Christian life Steve. You have hit the nail and she is bent..
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